The Life-Changing Magic of Opting Out: The Mom Hour, Episode 161

No one mom “does it all”–or so we’re told. But what exactly DON’T we do? In Episode 161 Meagan and Sarah share our experience finding ways to opt out of the little (and sometimes not-so-little) tasks and obligations that aren’t meaningful to us as moms, making room for more of what is.

PLUS resident new mom Katie Addiss joins Sarah at the end of the show to talk about a great swimsuit-saving strategy and other tales from the trenches. Join us!

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Queue It Up!

We picked an episode from the archives to listen to when you’re done with this one! It’s called What Are Your “Mom Superpowers”?, and it’s from March 29, 2016. Click here to play it now!



  1. Long long listener – like every episode here! Not sure what amazing place Sarah has her kids in school, but saying “we don’t do homework!” for K- 3 won’t fly here in Denver. It was actually unbelievable to hear someone act as if they can just tell a school what they will and will not do. We are at a charter school and for each grade they are in the homework can increase by that much per hour (ie. 1st grade one hour, 2nd grade two hours, etc…if we were to tell our principal or teacher we weren’t going to do homework, we would be told thank you for wanting to come to this amazing school, but goodbye! Plenty of other kids waiting to be selected! It made Sarah seem like she is on a bit of a high horse and I promise, that attitude wouldn’t fly with most schools in the country! Plus – up to third grade, really?? They cam handle homework at that point!

    • Hey Kristin! My kids are at a small charter (also with a long wait list!) and the school already has a low-homework philosophy so my opting out doesn’t rock the boat too much. I can see how it would be different if we were at a school that really prioritized homework. Definitely did not mean to get on a high horse, but it is something I feel strongly about for my kids so I’m sure that came across. 🙂 Thanks so much for listening and taking the time to comment. We’re grateful to have you here.

  2. Hi Sarah, I’m just curious since you are not a fan of homework do you have your kids do workbooks during the summer to prevent brain drain? I have 1 kid who likes to do workbooks and 1 who doesn’t. I don’t really push it maybe just twice a week. Thanks!

    • Hi Kim! Probably won’t surprise you, but we don’t do workbooks or really anything to prevent brain drain. I DO sometimes encourage activities to support an area that one of my kids is weaker in (both my older kids are slow typers so I sometimes let them play a learn-to-type computer game, for example). But even with those things it’s not really mandatory or on any kind of a structure. My kids do a lot of reading, writing, and drawing in their everyday play, and if they didn’t naturally gravitate toward those things I might approach this differently, but for now it works for us. Thanks for commenting!

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