Pubic Hair + The Art of Detachment: Selfie, Episode 06


Pubic hair: to remove or not to remove? And detaching from relationships and expectations as self-care. In this episode we take a deep dive (ooph) into pubic hair and some of the challenges of hair removal in this delicate area, sharing our own experiences with lasers, waxing, shaving, trimming, and even Nair. We also chat with therapist B.J. Hickman about the psychological concept of detachment, and how we can care for others without losing ourselves.

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  1. Hi Kristen & Sarah, I am enjoying your podcast immensely. This latest episode in particular hit really close to home: I made a documentary about body image and the globalization of beauty, which mentions the issue of Brazilian waxing. I even included in the film the clip from Sex & the City that you mentioned, as well as the cover of Cosmopolitan that mentioned for the first time ever the issue of Brazilian waxing. My expert in that segment was Gail Dines and the stuff she said was incredible. If you want to check out my film, please see: – based on the topics you discuss, I think it’d be right up your alley. Keep up the amazing work!

  2. I’m interested in the Refinery 29 article you mentioned. I don’t see the link…

  3. Your podcast is so funny and refreshing, it makes me feel like trying new things (…well, maybe not home waxing). Thanks!

  4. Thanks for discussing hair removal–it’s been on my mind lately! I ordered the trimmer and I’ve got my fingers crossed. I am glad you were brave enough to discuss this. Thanks again!

  5. I enjoy your show a lot! This episode made me laugh as intimate care habits were shared. I thought the meal prep and eating confessions were great. I recently subscribed to Hungry Root food service. It helps with prep and I eat a lot better! I look forward to your next show!

  6. This episode was hilariously awesome! But how come nobody talked about nipple hair?! Also, I had a college roommate who plucked her bikini line hair!

  7. I love your podcasts! From pubic hair to B.J. Hickman – its all important stuff! I grew up in the 80s/90s. My mom did not talk to me about waxing or bikini lines and I wasn’t allowed to watch Sex and the City, so it was hard to gather information and now, in my mid-30s, I’m still trying to figure it out!

    And, anything related to Brene Brown and her research, is so applicable. <3

    I appreciate your discussions and the topics you choose (no matter how uncomfortable it might get). It's really valuable!

  8. Hello, Kristen and Sarah,
    Just got tuned in to your podcast and am enjoying it so much! Just wanted to drop you a line about some language that I find helpful in maintaining healthy boundaries between my self and others, my emotions, my thoughts, my narratives etc. etc. I like to use the term defusion versus detachment because it conveniently allows me to not get caught up in thinking it is somehow opposed to attachment. In my mind it’s something altogether different. We are attached to others in relationship but it doesn’t mean we have to fuse with their emotions, thoughts, or behavioral choices. I didn’t come up with the language – learned it in studying Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and have found it very useful! Keep up the great work. P.S. I love your humor and your sincerity all intermingled – so very genuine!

  9. Wow 😂 thank you for sharing so much with us.

  10. very well defined. the knowledge is really indeed helpful.

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