The Process Addiction Episode + Pets As Self-Care: Selfie, Episode 22

Andy Omvik

Can you be addicted to habits or behaviors? We discuss process addictions, and how we can become hooked to certain experiences, from the internet to shopping to flirting. We talk about how to know when a process addiction has gone too far, and what to do about it.

Some great books on process addictions:

How to Break Up with Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life

To Buy or Not to Buy: Why We Overshop and How to Stop

Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction

Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love

We also talk about pets as self-care and chat about our own personal experiences and ambivalent around our furry friends. Looking for a new pet? We recommend pet adoption. Check out this site to find adoptable pets in your area.

In this episode we also talk about our experience with HelloFresh, a meal subscription services that delivers recipes along with all the ingredients you need in pre-measured, labeled meal kits. They’ve got gourmet meals but also many one-pot recipes for seriously speedy cooking and minimal cleanup. For $30 off your first HelloFresh order use the promo code SELFIE30.


  1. Sarah, look at Australian Cattle Dogs. Different from Aus. Shepherds. ACDs come in blue and red (sometimes called blue heelers). They are super smart, protective, but laid back and good with kids. They are very unique. Short haired and low allergy. Ours was named Batman because he had a full black mask over his eyes. Whenever we see baby Batmans, we can barely stand it. Research them! 😉

  2. So I need to preface this comment with, I love this podcast. But I have a comment about your most recent podcast episode about dogs. Although it may be annoying when you go to someone’s house and they jump on you or lick you, that dog is part of that family, that is their home. If you don’t like it, don’t go there. That dog belongs there, you don’t, you are a visitor.

    • I think this may be a difference in values. If I invite someone to my home, I want them to be comfortable. I don’t think it’s okay for any member of the family, kids included, to make a guest uncomfortable. If one of my kids violated the personal boundaries of a guest I would make them stop, not tell the guest to just stay away. If you’d prefer your dog to be able to do whatever over hosting, that’s your priority. But it isn’t everyone’s.

  3. I have built my life around my love of pets. As a dog groomer and multi-pet owner I have to say please give yourself permission to say that you are not pet lovers without shame. I know in American society admitting that you are not fond of animals is synonymous with treason, but this preference should be met with understanding not pity or distain. Owning a pet should never be anything more than a welcome responsibility. Sarah, as a dog groomer I recommend a bichon or poodle,if you are not fond of the typical frou frou haircuts look up puppy cuts they are low maintenance and cute. Just fyi any mixes may still shed.

  4. I am a dog owner, and yet everything you both said resonated with me. It is exactly how I explain dogs to people, and when I trained my current dog, because I knew what I needed, and even though he did everything he still required too many orders to do it, I felt I sounded cold when I said to the trainer “I just need six more inches”. I have three kids, I have been experiencing a really challenging year, and yet, I must say, the dog we have while absolutely perfect and intuitive and envied by ALL, is not my source of comfort. I don’t mind being needed and wanted by my kids, but by my dog, not sure why it’s too much!! I don’t want a dog in my couch and yet others let him all over them, I don’t mouth kiss my dog… I researched breeders because he had to be hypoallergenic and he doesn’t shed ever and he is adorable, and yet I had a perfect dog for sixteen years, like truly actually perfect, she wanted independence but was reliable, and I realized, I loved my dog and that dog, but I don’t want to be talking to a dog every time I open a door, and like Kristen, if I own this perfect lovely doing everything right dog, I feel guilty not loving him in my space all the time! Our dog is a labradoodle, he comes well bred, and smart and easy to train but he wants constant companionship. My kids can’t possibly do it all and they love him. Anyway, it’s just ok to not want your crotch sniffed by someone’s dog and also, my introvert son who really wanted a dog, was fine saying I think I’m not really into dogs! And we aren’t cold people!

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